Thursday, November 23rd, 2017

I Know Your Type and You’re Killing Yourself


I know your type.  I can relate to you oh so well.  Parts of you are in me.  And if you are obese or heading there you are the type of person that will die early.

You have the ‘gift of giving’. You always say yes when it comes to giving of yourself.

Your job: Whenever they ask, you say yes.  You give to your employer and your co-workers everything that you have.  You probably look at it as part job, part ministry.

Your church: Whatever they ask, you say yes. You give to your church more than to the job. Not in time but in commitment.  You can’t say no to whatever you’re asked to do. Even when it is inconvenient or downright intrusive on you and your family.

You say yes to your immediate and extended family just the same.  Handling the cooking and cleaning and maybe even helping with the homework (although your spouse may do some of this which is a great help).

At the end of the day the one person you never say yes to is yourself.  Outside of the regular hair appointment you never take time for yourself.  Doing so would mean saying no to other people. And you can’t do that. People need you.

Your esteem is actually slightly built up by the fact that others need you. So you fool yourself into believing that people can’t manage without you. You’re health shows it.  You’re overweight. Seriously overweight.  You’re pre-diabetic. Bad back and knees. High blood pressure.

And from my perspective you are right.  They do need you.  But. They will manage without you.  Just wait until you’re dead and watch them manage without you.  Sure they will remember you on a couple special days per year and may even bring flowers to your grave site.  But trust me, in the end, they will manage without you.

So here is the deal. You are such a blessing to everyone that you need to be somewhat selfish for yourself now! Why? Because having you around longer is better than not.

Consider this hierarchy:

1st – God
2nd – Me
3rd – Family Work Church

You should come before nearly everyone else.  If you don’t take care of yourself there is going to be less of you to give to your family, work, church or other charitable or social networks.

Now take some time for yourself daily.  Here is a good starting point.

If you want more insight into the hierarchy I mentioned above check out Michael Hyatt’s post here:

Talk to soon and remember,

There’s A Winner Within You!


6 Responses to “I Know Your Type and You’re Killing Yourself”
  1. Tutu says:

    What a great opportunity. I sheard it with a few people who I thought would be interested. I would love for you to join me at the #gettingittogether New Year’s Resolution Twitter party on the 3rd at 7pm PST. It would be a great place to promote your new book and this opportunity! Hope to see you there.

  2. nomoreinertia says:

    *rendered speechless*

    “Mother Teresa”…ya, I get it.

    The only RUNNING I’ve been doing is…………. running from myself.

  3. Stephanie says:

    Thank you for sharing this, you described be to a tee and gave me something to think about.

  4. Allie says:

    This reminds me of what I was repeatedly told as a child in Sunday School – the way to have JOY in your life is to put Jesus first, Others second, and Yourself last. It took DECADES for me to figure out that putting myself LAST was taking all the joy out of my life, and I’m still trying to break the habit of thinking that I don’t matter; that tending to others is more important than taking care of myself, and not having the time (because I’m busy with Others) to eat right or exercise becomes a way of life and morphs into not wanting to do any of those things, which leads to depression and comfort eating.

  5. workintolose says:

    Wow! This is amazing…I have tears in my eyes just reading it cause it hits me right in the heart. Thank you Pete for the reminder!

  6. Dianne Brubaker says:

    Thanks, Pete. Great reminders about the importance of just saying no to others sometimes.

    I am lucky to have a husband who thinks it’s great when I have my ‘me’ time. I realized that I am no good to anyone without recharging myself in some way. I take some time just for me every day. A lot of my ‘me’ time is spent in conversation with God. Like an on-going chat we seem to have. 😀

    I find that when I get my time alone or with girlfriends, I come home happier. I come home more willing to be there in the moment, rather than wishing I were somewhere else.

    It’s so hard for so many to think they are worthy of that seemingly selfish time, but it’s not selfish and we are ALL SO WORTHY!